Grief is no respecter of persons. It comes to visit each of us at one time or another in our lives this side of heaven.How foolish to think for a minute that we will manage to escape the cold dark hand of grief.
“My life is spent with grief and my years with sighing” Ps.31:10
And yet so few of us choose to sit with grief. So many of us blink back our tears and keep moving forward, terrified that if we start to cry we may never stop. Others of us ignore grief, unwilling to sit and look grief in the eye and absorb the pain in front of us. We minimize and explain it away. Some of us may try to outrun it or maybe dig a hole and bury it deep in the earth….or maybe in a bottle of wine. Other try to laugh in the face of grief only to find that the laugh is an empty sound devoid of any joy….
To sit with our grief means that for a moment we embrace loss, allowing our hearts to feel a deep emptiness that only that Father can fill. To refuse to sit with our grief is to refuse the loving comfort of our Heavenly Father for surely these are not empty words….
Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted” Matt. 5:4
Don’t rush through your pain. Sit with it. Think about your loss and recognize that life will be different and not in a better way. Sit with grief and allow the tears to fall. Cry for what is lost and maybe for what we never had in the first place. It won’t be easy and it may take you a while to walk through the dark hallway of grief. Take the hurt in your hands and hold it up close for a good look. See it for what it is, a part of this broken fallen world.
Then let the Father fold you in His arms. Let Him wipe the tears from your face and collect them in a bottle marked “PRECIOUS”, for not one tear is wasted in God’s economy.
You see, you won’t ever know peace until you sit with grief. So sit with it. It won’t kill you, instead it allows you access to the Greatest Power…grief ushers you into the presence of a great God who can comfort you in such a lavish way that you realize that grief was your friend the whole time, never your enemy.